What would you do in this situation regarding a close friend?
I’m torn on what to do. My son graduated high school in 2008. He is a full time college student now, and makes the dean’s list…yes I’m very proud! My very close friend of 36 yrs. phoned me a few days before graduation and said she couldn’t make it. Yes she is about 4 hrs. away. No reason given. I, a few years back, traveled to her and was a bridesmaid for her wedding. It cost us a small fortune to make it out there by train and stay 3 nights at a NYC hotel. I was thrilled for her and was happy to do it. So when she couldn’t make it I understood even though no reason was given. To top it off no card was sent. I mean I didn’t expect a gift but a card would have been nice. It was a very happy day for me and my family. NOW she had invited me to her baby shower, she was having her first baby. Thrilled yes I was. Went out and got a card, special gift wrap but my family stepped in every time I went to get a gift and reminded me of how hurt I was that she didn’t acknowledge my son’s high school graduation. How I was very upset and cried. I have yet to get a gift the baby was born in late August. I have sent best wishes by email. I have yet to send even a card and have guilt over the whole thing. YET I’m really surprised that she never did send my son a card. Should I have just sent a gift and been the bigger person OR is my family right?
I have lived like the Mother Theresa quote my entire life. I have always been a giver. I have also been taken advantage of many many times and have come to a point in my life where I’m getting rid of all the extra BS in my life. Life is too short to not live the way you want. Instead of worrying about them I’m taking care of me…for a change and I’m far happier. I’m living for ME.
